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Why do we have to argue about this?

Thursday, January 14, 2010 Leave a comment Go to comments

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People often disagree; but why?

People have different thinking. I have my own thinking and I think it is right. Other people also believe in their own thinking, but it may not always be the same as me. So we talk to each other, but sometimes our conversations are intense. – Yoko, a YMCA first year English course student

What does it mean to argue anyway?

It means to contend or disagree in words giving reasons for or against something.

Why do it?

What are some reasons you argue?

Hopefully you are able to argue in a civilized manner exchanging structured points of view with others, but often times we become defensive and it becomes more about winning than expressing pertinent standpoints. This can be due to an underlying problem such as:

Can arguing be done more effectively?

According to Michael Gilbert in How To Win An Argument:

“In a creative argument both parties are more interested in finding the truth or solving the problem than in being right. When you argue creatively you are interested in your partner’s arguments, and you listen to them carefully to see if there is helpful information or insights. Your partner is also listening to you, and you work together to come up with the best solution or correct answer. Creative argument minimizes the role of the arguers’ egos and maximizes their commitment to inquiry.”

Although an argument may be unavoidable in many circumstances. I would recommend you have arguments for the suitable reasons so something conclusive can come of the discussion, improving your life and the lives of those around you.

Oh you don’t think so? Prove it!

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  1. Tuesday, January 19, 2010 at 2:33 PM

    I agree with the article that it is OK to agree to disagree. People do have different values and thinking patterns. However, the COMPANY values shall take precedence over personal values, only then you will find people are talking in the same languages.

    • Jason Christensen
      Tuesday, January 19, 2010 at 8:29 PM

      I appreciate your participation!

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