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I’m gonna count to NOW!

Thursday, March 4, 2010 Leave a comment

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Has there ever been a time where you should count to 10 and relax for a bit? Well, I’m gonna count to NOW!

Are there ever times in your life when you should take a moment, count to ten and relax? Instead, you find yourself so infuriated you can only count to NOW! Let’s face it sometimes all we need is a little lesson in patience. Perhaps we should take a couple minutes right now to explore patience, before you blow your top.

“Serenity now!” -Frank Costanza (Seinfeld)

What is Patience?
Patience is the act of remaining calm and collected during times of stress, challenges or difficult circumstances.

Determining the Cause
What caused this turmoil, why are you so upset? Take some time to reflect and become conscious of the reasons you are so irritated.

  • Generate an awareness of what brought you to this level of impatience.
  • Are there any triggers prompting your irritation?
  • Be conscious of reoccurring patterns causing your patience to be tested.

Counteracting Your Impatience
When you feel the tension of intolerance building here are some things you can do:

  • Determine what got you to this point.
  • Visualize what the appropriate action should be instead of loosing your patience.
  • Exercise or perform a physical activity to exert energy and release the tension.
  • Take slow deep breaths.
  • Listen to some relaxing music to calm yourself.
  • View calming photos which bring you fortitude (i.e. sunset, water, landscapes, etc.)
  • Do nothing; take a moment clear your mind, relax and meditate.
  • Remove yourself from the emotion of the moment; if possible take an hour and come back calm and relaxed.
  • Enjoy the moment and smile clandestinely knowing you will get through this.

Stop Your Frustration BEFORE it Happens
What preemptive measures can you take to dissipate the emotion and ensure they don’t reoccur moving forward?

“Good things come to those who wait.” – Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

  • Slow down there is no need for immediate gratification, in fact most successes are achieved over time.
  • If the situation is beyond your control; then why worry about it? There is no sense getting worked up about conditions you cannot influence, just take proper steps to prepare for the results.
  • Expect the unexpected; quite frequently events will not go as anticipated the first time around.
  • It is appropriate to have high ambitions, but stop holding yourself and the world around you to unreachable standards.
  • Get organized everything runs smoother when you are prepared.

What to do in the Future
Take it each day as it comes with a vision for the future. To succeed you need to prepare a well thought out plan with a clear vision.

“Our life is what our thoughts make it.” – Marcus Aurelius

  • Research and exude positive convictions sharing your optimism with others. Doing so will generate confidence among the group.
  • Remember what is important to you by having clearly defined objectives.
  • Convey gratitude for the gifts you have in your life and career; be it your family, friends, employment, customers, etc.
  • Act in a mature manner. Outrage is not the way to impress others.
  • Understand and accept; what is the worst thing that could happen? Most times if you center in on the worst case scenario, it is not as bad as you first made it out to be.

Patience is an important factor to a well-balanced and harmonious life. As you progress through your life and excel in your career there will be times of great stress. Take the time to be patient and make calm rational decisions rather than quick disorganized reactions.

What are some tips you have for patience?

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Facebook as a Workplace Tool?

Thursday, February 25, 2010 Leave a comment

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Can Facebook really be used as a serious workplace tool? The answer may surprise you…
With so many virtual teams scattered and far flung around the globe we need to find a way to cultivate the team bonding experience achieved in an office. In today’s mobile workforce the sense of presence is limited which in turn decreases the opportunity for team bonding, communication and trust. Sure we all have email, phones and other means of communication; but what opportunity do we have to really get to know each other? What can be done to stifle the disconnect and bring people closer together? The answer is…Facebook.

Why Facebook?
What’s lacking in the virtual workforce is the personal bonding which typically occurs when colleagues work side-by-side day after day. Relationships develop; people learn about one another, hear about family life and gain perspective of each others personal interests. A bond is a close personal relationship that forms between people working toward shared goals using collaborative efforts. So how do you duplicate this in a virtual team environment?

How Do I Get Started?
Start by creating a Facebook group for your team. If you company is large make sure you pare it down to only include the members of your team directly. Be sure to incorporate your team identity and include basic information to the group such as:

  • Links to company site and other team sites.
  • Newsletter.
  • Upcoming events including: Webinars, conferences and other programs where someone from your team will be present.
  • Update your group or fan page on a regular basis with helpful information.
  • Answer FAQ’s (Frequently Asked Questions).

What Should Each Team Member Post?
Now you have your group set up and you are ready for your team to join the group and start posting. If any of your team members are new to Facebook here are some guidelines to assist them in determining the content they should share:

  • Individual bio’s
  • Background
  • Education
  • Work history
  • Areas of expertise
  • Certifications
  • Training
  • Work Goals
  • Family happenings
  • Personal Interests
  • Pictures
  • Personal Goals
  • _
    At first they may be apprehensive about contributing personal information to the group, let’s face it many people are a little uneasy about tipping their cards. Make clear to them you would not expect them to share any information they would not otherwise discuss if they were in an office setting. Explain to them you are working to create a more personal, humanizing dimension to people who are otherwise perceived as distant and unconnected. It is also significant to note to your virtual team there are many security settings on Facebook allowing them to pare down the information they choose to share with the group.

    What Should Each Team Member Avoid?
    How do you know what is appropriate? Of course it is imperative for people to know the boundaries of acceptable material. Set specific guidelines and add to them as needed, to start…

    • All information should be non-proprietary.
    • Be respectful of the company, brand, and reputation.
    • Avoid rumors and gossip.
    • Steer clear of stories or photos which may seem provocative or make others in the group uncomfortable.
    • Set guidelines for the amount of time spent online.

    Why Incorporate Facebook at All?

    “We think it could be valuable when used in an appropriate way.” – Haydn Long, spokesperson for Flight Centre

    Employers are embracing Facebook and believe it can help build a sense of community amongst employees and help foster bonds with clients. A spokesperson for Facebook stated, “Facebook is an incredibly efficient way for people with real-world connections to share information and communicate, including among people who work together.” Among other things Facebook is a good way to…

    • Increase trust: Colleagues get to know one another, then like each other and when they like each other they trust each other.
    • Immerse a new employee into the group by getting to know the interests of their counterparts.
    • Have long term employees gain further insight to their colleagues.
    • Allow for a connection and create a sense of presence you would otherwise find in an office environment.
    • Stay up-to-date as people’s interests change.

    Let’s face it remote employees are spread far and wide across the globe today and if you are looking to bolster loyalty to the company and generate a team atmosphere it is crucial you embrace the technologies available to your workforce. Rather than forbidding these tools as many employers do find ways to utilize them as functional workplace mechanisms.

    Can Facebook really be used as a serious workplace tool; what are your thoughts?

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    The Simple Yellow Banana: How to simplify your life.

    Tuesday, February 23, 2010 1 comment

    (Photo: Jason Gulledge)

    Did you ever notice how great the banana is? How it fits so nicely into your hand; how just by looking at it you can tell if it is ready to eat? Did you ever realize it has a built in pull tab for easy opening, the peel separates and falls back so gracefully and it’s even curved toward your face for easy consumption? Yes, it doesn’t get much better than the simple yellow banana.

    For all the effectiveness the banana has to offer in its tight yellow package there is not much about it you can offer as a complaint; in fact the packaging is even biodegradable. So my question to you is how can you make your life simpler? What can you do to make everything you in your life as effective as the banana has? The answer is easy; it is execution that’s the hard part.

    Going on an Information Diet:

    “You don’t need to know everything; you just need to know where to go to get it.”

    • Watch a little less television.
    • Skip the morning paper occasionally.
    • Cut down on some of your internet time.

    Think about it; do you really remember everything you read, watched or listened to at the end of the day? And of the things you do remember how important are they to your life? Does it really affect your life when a celebrity cheats on his wife? Unless you are his agent or he is endorsing your product, I’m guessing not. So why spend time cluttering your mind with information that is going to be yesterday’s news – tomorrow?

    Instead spend some time with your family and friends or take some time for yourself to relax.

    Apply the 80/20 rule:
    Pareto’s Law says 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes. This or similar ratios apply to most things in life.

    • 80% of your life’s complication is caused by 20% of….
    • 70% of your stress is created by 30% of….
    • 90% of your happiness comes from 10% of….

    Think about what you can eliminate to remove the complicated stressful parts of your life and apply the extra time toward those things which make you happy and add simplicity to your existence.

    Be in Control:

    “You can’t control everything that happens in the world but you can control your response to it.”

    Be in control of yourself. If someone is trying to argue with you; the only person who can allow you to get upset about what they are saying, is you! If you are feeling stress about an upcoming event, this may happen or that might go wrong; guess what? Those things are out of your control! What are you accomplishing by worrying about them? Have a contingency plan and move on.

    All too often we get worked-up about things in life we have no control over, take time to assess the situation, determine if there is anything you can do to affect the outcome and if the answer is no, then let it go. Take control of your life and put your efforts toward the things you can contribute to and make your life simpler.

    Once you start to let it all go, you will feel the stress dissipating and your mind focusing on what is truly important Let your own built-in effectiveness take over; the banana did it, why can’t you?

    What are you going to do right now, to make your life simpler?

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    MISSION IMPOSSIBLE: Secret Agent Tools for Escaping the Office.

    Wednesday, February 17, 2010 1 comment

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    Hello Reader. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to escape the 9 – 5 and join forces with the new secret society — the Virtual Workforce. You will infiltrate their clan and pose as an everyday office employee, be it from a remote location. This band of remote employees may not be what you expect so beware of their astounding productivity, their resounding flexibility and their cost effective strategies. If you plan to carry on with this elite crowd you are going to need some special gear for your secret venue. Below we have listed virtually every tool you need to work from your new remote position.

    Spy Kit:

    1. Secure Location (aka Dedicated Office Space)
    To secure your location take up position in a discreet location of your dwelling. In order to succeed at this mission you will need a private site to be clear from the interruption and distraction.

    2. Land Based Communication Device (aka Telephone)
    Even with modern technology being what it is, we prefer you still use the land line. It allows for distortion free conversation and if this underground agency is like ours the conference calls can sometimes be endless. Just be sure to scan it for wire taps before use.

    3. Mobile Communications Device (aka Blackberry, iPhone or Smartphone)
    Leave your Swiss Army Knife behind, you won’t need it. This device will allow you to go mobile when you are on the run and you will never miss a directive with all this data at your finger tips:

    • Email
    • Calendar
    • Task List
    • Notes
    • Mobile Documents
    • Voice Notes
    • Text Messages
    • Instant Message
    • Internet
    • Bluetooth
    • File Transfer
    • Package Tracking
    • Clock
    • Calculator
    • Call Forwarding
    • Online Voicemail
    • Maps with GPS
    • Camera
    • Pictures
    • Videos
    • Music
    • News / Sports / Weather
    • Flights & Travel
    • Social Networking
    • Audio Books
    • Games

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    4. Centralized Message Routing System (aka Online Voicemail)
    All unanswered calls to your mobile communication device will be routed through your centralized message routing system, which you can customize for your needs.

    The capabilities include:

    • Having the call sent right into your electronic messaging for you to review on your portable data exchange unit.
    • Decoding the message and having it sent to you via text on your mobile communication device.
    • Redirecting the call to a secure location.

    5. Global Information Network (aka Internet)
    Although you may be able to hack into rouge systems from nearby dwellings, we recommend you secure a high-speed connection in your own residence. It will allow you reliable communications through secure channels.

    6. Portable Data Unit (aka Laptop)
    This apparatus will likely be your primary communication device. Dependant on your role and responsibility in this subversive operation you will likely need a portable unit. Should you get involved in higher level plot design or similar specialty you may require a more serious set up. Many of the other tools we provide you will depend upon and be channeled through this unit. Treat this device well and protect it with your life.

    7. Secure Connection (aka VPN – Virtual Private Network)
    Essentially this is a secure link allowing authorized users to connect with our remote server inside the agency.

    8. Computer Hacking Gadget (aka Remote Access)
    If at anytime you should need to access your data based within our agency we have created a method for you to connect directly to your computer here at the agency from any browser globally. This will gain you entry to use the software licensed on your computer and any other files, programs or networks stored internally.

    9. Multipurpose Document Scanning, Duplication & Creation (aka All-in-one Printer/Scanner/Copier)
    With this device you will have no trouble replicating enemy maps, grids and target objectives. There is no longer a need to use your back-alley forging contact; you will be able to develop your own false identity and plenty of counterfeit currency to get you by with this unit.

    10. Back-up Utility (aka External Hard Drive)
    To completely secure the intelligence being collected, you will need back it up at regular intervals ensuring its protection.

    11. Electronic Messaging (aka Email)
    In order to avoid a paper trail you will need to dialog with the agency through electronic text sent using your portable data unit.

    12. Document Transfer Mechanism (aka Electronic Fax Services)
    Periodically we will need to forward you discreet documents; again we prefer to avoid a paper trail so we will be distributing them electronically. Check you electronic messaging periodically for these documents. Should you have an important piece of intelligence to convey to us; you can scan the document using your multipurpose equipment and send it via electronic messaging. The message will print out directly on our end.

    13. Real-time Text Transfer (aka Instant Messaging)
    In order to maintain the utmost discretion we will sometimes need to communicate via real-time text through your portable data unit.

    14. Spy Cam (aka Webcam)
    Although you are undercover, there will still be need for face-to-face communication. Rather than risking exposure to your identity we would prefer to keep you on assignment communicating through a spy cam device. This piece of equipment will project your image onto our screens as well as your being able to view our images on your portable data unit.

    15. Remote Case Briefing Program (aka Online Meeting Tool & Web Conferencing)
    Occasionally we will need to review our mission strategies, this program will allow you to run and receive video communications using the global information network via your portable data unit. Using this program we will easily be able to share particular documents, video and training procedures with you allowing you to maintain your location.

    16. Inter-connected Environment (aka Shared Workspace of File Management)
    This environment is a key instrument providing means for team of agents to have a single source from which to pull data to pull. All confidential documents and initiatives will be located here for your use anytime day or night.

    17. Mission Critical Mechanism (aka Project Collaboration Tool)
    With multiple agents spread across various geographies this will be our base camp where all field agents can gather to provide briefings on the status of their mission objectives. This centralized location will allow each agent to share files, assign tasks, set objectives, provide feedback and manage assignments.

    18. Target Distribution System (aka File Sharing Program)
    As an element of you cover you will need to distribute files outside of our agency. This program permits you to send large files via the global information network to your counterparts on the other side.

    19. Secure Courier Service (aka FedEx & UPS)
    As you come across items needing analysis or distribution which cannot be transmitted electronically, utilize a secure courier service to transport the goods to our location. These services will pick up from and deliver to your secure locale.

    20. Office Supplies (aka well, Office Supplies)
    To maintain your cover as an office employee you will still need some basic office tools. These will primarily be used for their original purposes, but you will also see they come in useful for alternate purposes.

    For example:

    • Paperclips can be used to as general lock picking devices.
    • Packing tape can be use to secure the enemy marks once they have been captured.
    • Rulers can be utilized in certain interrogation techniques.

    Feel free to find other mechanisms in your office and put them to use and be sure to share them through the mission critical mechanism outlined above.

    We have full faith you will be able to complete this mission successfully. Good Luck Reader!

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    What I’ve learned from playing with LEGO®

    Tuesday, February 16, 2010 2 comments

    (Photo: Legospective, originally uploaded by Guillermо.)

    There I was, a young child, sitting in the middle of the floor in my parent’s living room with my box of LEGO® bricks, each in their own compartment sorted by color. My options were endless; with LEGO® I could be anyone, go anywhere and do anything. Now thirty odd years later in my own living room I relive those memories, sitting on the floor with my sons, toiling with them as they build their own LEGO® dreams.

    As indirect as it may seem, I learned much from playing with my LEGO® building bricks. Many of those same lessons my sons will learn too.

    1. Organization

    “Organize your life around your dreams – and watch them come true.”

    To this day, I am particularly organized; including lists, calendars, general tidiness and yes – color coding! Did it all start there so many years ago placing each color LEGO® into it’s own pile making sure none of the blue were mixed in with the red? Who knows, but I do know every day when it was time to clean up, each piece went back into its own color coded compartment ensuring the next time I brought them out, no sorting would be needed.

    2. Following Instructions

    I don’t remember them when I was a kid, but in today’s LEGO® sets there are step-by-step instructions of how to put together each item in the set. The coolest creations are made easy following along with page after page of pictures stepping you through the construction. Maybe it stifles the creativity a bit, but what it does is teach you how you can accomplish your tasks by following along with the directions. Not bad lessons to learn as you are starting out in life.

    “Discoveries are often made by not following instructions, by going off the main road, by trying the untried.” – Frank Tyger

    3. Creativity

    “Creativity is the power to connect the seemingly unconnected.” – William Plomer

    Once you get past the instructions and let your creativity flow, the options are infinite. With the LEGO® bricks in hand you can build whatever you want; there are no limits. When you build a straight up tower of bricks, it can be a rocket ship or a tall building or a sword, your imagination is your own limitation. Let your mind be your guide as you steer toward your life’s destiny.

    4. Patience

    “Patience is the companion of wisdom.” – Saint Augustine

    Building with LEGO® bricks is a slow progression. It can be a grueling process, but it is a lesson in the value of patience. And patience is a virtue teaching you self control and restraint.

    5. Attention to Detail

    “In the successful organization, no detail is too small to escape close attention.” – Lou Holtz

    Piece by piece you labor to advance your work of genius; each part needing to be in the right spot in order to achieve your desired outcome. I watch as my son studies in detail the pictures on the box, carefully calculating the placement and adjacencies needed in order to build his next LEGO® project. I recall similar analysis myself at a young age and to this day you can find me sitting down with a pad of paper and pencil to layout the design of my next project.

    6. Adapt to the Situation

    “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. – George Bernard Shaw

    One day you can build an airplane and the next day, with those same LEGO® bricks, you can build a skyscraper. If you find yourself a few LEGO® pieces short for your intended project you can modify your results by using another color, a different piece or scaling down your design. The possibilities are never ending. In life everything will not happen as we intended, we need to be able to revise our plans when necessary and go with the flow.

    7. Any Mistake Can Be Fixed

    “Ok, I can fix this” – My son upon breaking one of his LEGO® creations.

    My son enters my office to showcase his latest LEGO® construction. As he extends his arms to present me with his creation as it breaks into two. There were no tears, no grumblings of anger, none of the negativity you might expect when something you worked so hard to build falls apart. On the contrary the first words out of his mouth were, “Ok, I can fix this.” We can all learn a lesson from this type of can do attitude, knowing no matter how awful circumstances may seem our problems can be repaired with a little ingenuity.

    8. Problem Solving

    “Any problem can be solved with a little ingenuity.” – MacGyver

    One of the greatest characteristics I developed playing with LEGO® is the ability to know I could use my mind to remedy any situation. No challenge was too great; I would always be able to determine a method for success. It may not have been my original intended approach, but I knew there was always a path to my final destination.

    9. You Can Build the Impossible Dream

    “Without dreams, there is no reality!” – Luis B. Couto

    Dreams are the means to a desired end. With LEGO® bricks you can capture those ideas, you can construct your vision no matter how large an obstacle it may seem. The same applies to your life; never accept that something cannot be accomplished – despite the barriers to can realize your dreams.

    10. Never Give Up

    “Never, never, never, never give up.” – Winston Churchill

    Sure there are times when you want to throw your hands up in defeat, I did it myself and I see it from my sons as they construct a LEGO® projects, but the answer is to never give up. Determination is a key factor in life; if you endure the journey keeping the vision alive you will see some of the greatest accomplishments achieved you never thought would happen.

    11. Teamwork

    “The nice thing about teamwork is that you always have others on your side” – Margaret Carty

    We can all use a little help now and again, my sons will periodically come up to us for assistance with their LEGO® creations needing my wife or me to snap a piece or two together. Sometimes we can all use a little guidance to get us through a tough spot and it is good to know you have others to rely on. There is no need to go through a difficult situation alone; the insights from others can often be inspiring as they allow us to see circumstances from perspectives outside of our own architecture.

    12. Celebrate your Achievements

    “The virtue of achievement is victory over oneself. Those who know this can never know defeat.” - A.J. Cronin

    Finally, you have worked so hard to carry out your objective don’t let your labors go unnoticed. Boast your accomplishments with humility and place your LEGO® creation up on the shelf for all to see. The same policy is relevant in later life; use tact, but be proud of your accomplishments.

    Those are just a few of the lessons I learned from play with LEGO®; I’m sure there are many more. Who knew back in 1934, when a carpenter turned, wooden toy maker, Ole Kirk Christiansen, took the first two letters of the Danish words LEG GODT, meaning “play well,” and put them together; the concept later developed by LEGO® would expand into a global staple of childhood toys shaping the minds, visions and futures of children into adulthood.

    “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” W. Clement Stone

    What other life lessons have you carried into adulthood based on your childhood experiences?

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    Get More Done in Less Time

    Tuesday, February 2, 2010 1 comment

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    How are you possibly going to get everything done today? The answer is simpler than you might think. Focus.

    We have all been there, it may be an mounting pile of work, a project needing completion, or a customer presentation you have not even started to put together. You may be thinking you are up against an impossible mission, but don’t give up – just stay focused.

    Getting Started

    Take time to clear your head and relax so you can start with a clean slate and concentrate. Many people find by allowing yourself a calm before the storm, it allows you to enter into your project with a clear head focused on the your desired out come. For me it could be reading a book and having a cup of coffee; others may go for a walk, hit the gym or read the morning paper. Do whatever works for you, but by allowing your mind to calm you are preparing it for what lies ahead.

    Get in the zone

    As you prepare to take on your day be sure:

    • The location is free of disruptions.
    • You have everything you need.
    • You are prepared.

    I will grab something to drink, go into my office, close the doors, tune to my favorite internet radio station, sit at my desk, clear away any distracting clutter and organize for the day. Do what works for you.

    Sometimes all it takes is a change of location to really focus, there are times I have packed up my laptop and found a far corner of the local library for some distraction free concentration. Some people enjoy having music on in the background, others do not. I find music gets me in the zone and allows me to zero in on my task. Whether it be music, a change of location or something else determine what works for you and make it happen.

    Planning

    Task List: It’s best to keep a task list of some sort be it electronic, a note pad, or just a scrap of paper you write your “to do’s” on.

    Prioritize and Schedule: Prioritize your task list  by sorting them into urgent, important and non-urgent tasks. If you have trouble prioritizing, use the 80/20 rule (aka Pareto’s law) to determine what the important tasks are.

    Staying on Track: Now you have prioritized your day and determined the first item on your list, break it into small pieces. As you do this it will make a large task seem less daunting and as you accomplish each piece you will build momentum as you move throughout the day.

    “Your daily schedule helps to focus the mind, holds it steadily to one thing at a time and in the right order. Following a logical sequence tends to eliminate confusion.”

    Keep a stringent schedule for your day. As mentioned, I take time in the morning for relaxation so I can come in the day focused. I move right into my projects and phone calls, check and respond email before lunch, come back, work on other projects and phone calls, check email an hour before the day is over, review my next day, prioritize, clear my desk of clutter and I am ready to start the next day with a clean slate.

    Not everyone is the same, so when you find a method that works for you, stick with it. Soon you will see you will be getting more done in less time by using focused planning and execution.

    More Tips:

    • Only check email twice per day. This is not easy to do, but is productive.
    • Let your calls go to voicemail knowing you can get back the callers when you decide to break or complete your task.
    • Don’t multitask. Multitasking has been proven time and again to be the cause for lack of focus. When you multitask, you never do anything well.
    • Inundated with random thoughts? Keep a notebook, task list, or sticky note pad near by. As I am working I have stack of index cards I use. If something pops into my head I write it down knowing the thought is saved there on the index card for later and I don’t mentally have to keep coming back to it.
    • Schedule time for future tasks. As new tasks present themselves, put them through Pareto’s Law, prioritize them, and schedule them for the future.
    • Rest, eat appropriately and exercise. It has been found these habits are contribute greatly to your level of concentration.
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    “No, no way, uh-uh, forget it!”

    Thursday, January 28, 2010 Leave a comment

    (Photo: massdistraction)

    We are pulled in many different directions in life, be it a project at work, a bake sale for school, a volunteer opportunity, you name it. So how do you find time to participate in everything and still find time for yourself and for your family? The answer….you don’t! It is time to just say, “NO!”

    It Hurts to Say No

    It is not so easy to say, “no.” The word “no” carries with it:

    • Guilt associated with not being able to help.
    • A struggle against peer pressure and others impression of you.
    • Feelings of failure not being able to do all the things you may want.

    Let’s face it, You can’t do it all!

    Why say, “no?”

    We all have goals in life and hopefully you are focused on what you really want. If so, the answer should be an easy one, however saying, “no” is the difficult part. Remember every time you say, “yes” you are taking time from your schedule and essentially saying, “no” to something else in your life. So don’t feel bad saying, “no,” it allows you to have time to concentrate on what is really important to you and…

    • Keeps you from burnout.
    • Lowers your stress level.
    • Allows you more time for other things.

    When should I say yes?

    Before you can even think about getting good at saying “no,” get clear on what to say, “yes” to in life. If your yes is more time with your family it will mean turning down obligations keeping you away from home. If it’s yes to better health, you’ll need to say, “no” to late nights at work that keep you from the gym. “The firmer your foundation and connection to your yes,” says William Ury, Ph.D., author of The Power of a Positive No, “the less difficult it will be to say no.”

    Are there some times you should say, “Yes?” Of course, but before you do, ask yourself:

    How to say, “no.”

    You have come to the decision to say, “No,” because is does not fit what you are looking for in life; so how do you do it?

    1. Show sincerity. – People appreciate a genuine response.
    2. Be direct and don’t elaborate. – No one wants to hear excuses.
    3. Be convincing and exude confidence by being firm. – If your answer is no, say, “no,” and mean it.

    “Avoid burdening the other person with unnecessary or elaborate excuses. You run the risk of the other person trying to fix the situation. Plus, the more drawn-out the excuse, the less authentic it sounds — and, in the end, it’s really no one else’s business.”

    Here are some examples of  ways to say, “no” and why they work:

    • “Thank you, I already have something going on at that time.” – Tell them you already have plans for that time.
    • “Thank you for the offer, but I am committed to another project.” – Let’s them know you appreciate the offer, but you are committed to something else (ie. Church, charity, school, family, etc,)
    • “I’d really love to, but it just does not fit my schedule.” – Shows interest, but let’s the other party know the timing does not work for you.
    • “Not at this time.” – Leaves the door open for them to ask you at another time.
    • “I don’t want to take on what I can’t fully commit to doing well.” – This is a yes to higher standards.
    • Say “no” by saying “yes.” - Lessens the feeling of conflict.

    Don’t be ashamed or feel guilty about saying, “no.” Take pride in knowing you are remaining committed to your values and are doing what is important to you and your family. You’ll be stronger for it. Even better, you’ll be a more focused contributor to the people and things that matter to you most.

    What are some other ways to say no?
    Do you think you should ever say, “no?”

    Article Title Source: Parents Just Don’t Understand - DJ Jazzy Jeff & The Fresh Prince

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    What’s it gonna be; yes or no?

    Tuesday, January 19, 2010 2 comments

    (Photo: Johnny Grim)

    You have a decision to make and the answer is yes or no. Maybe it will help you get where you are going, maybe it is a temporary solution, maybe it is not the right decision at all. How do you decide?

    First, you must have a clear vision of what you desire in life, a definite major purpose. Once you have that, you will know the answer by formulating it based on what best suits your goals.

    Ask yourself these questions:

    • Will this tie-in directly to my definite major purpose?
    • What is my heart telling me?
    • How does saying yes help me?
    • If I say yes; what will I have to give up doing to do this instead?
    • What will happen if I say no?
    • Will this be too much for me to handle?
    • Will this challenge me?
    • Is it the right time for me?
    • Is this something I am saying, “yes” to or is it something that makes me say “HELL YEAH!”

    If the opportunity does not seem exciting to you, then the answer should be an easy one. Only do what fits your vision and don’t do it if this is not something you are going passionate about.

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    There’s Karma in Leadership

    Thursday, December 10, 2009 Leave a comment

    (Image: Jason Christensen)

    “Karma is a funny thing.” It displays itself in many forms, is caused by what you do and affects all that happens to you. The results of your leadership in part is determined by karma. How you lead your team establishes what you get back from them.

    This is the story of Paul a manager in a corporation. Paul lead a great group of people, this team could really put their heads together and produce results, the leadership was there and the followship was there.  If one member of the team ever became distracted, any member of the team would help him to veer back onto the path and focus. Each gear was well oiled and everyone took satisfaction in their part of a bigger machine knowing they always did their best. When each project was finished, they would celebrate knowing they had completed a difficult task as a team and had done it better than the rest. One day while in a staff meeting, after overhearing his colleague’s boast of their accomplishments, Paul became envious and decided to take personal credit for a project his team completed so successfully as a unit. It made him feel good to reap the reward and praise for his team’s accomplishments; after all he was the leader of the team. News of this got back to Paul’s group and soon after it began to fall apart. The loyalty was no longer there, people started shifting departments and everything Paul had to put together as a leader began to crumble. Paul realized after the destruction of his team, it had been his egotism which caused the unit to fall apart and karma had struck him in a big way.

    A display of loyalty to our team and acting with integrity reveals our character and lets people know if you can be trusted; it inspires others to treat you in kind. With karma, you get what you give, so why not give your absolute best?

    Karma is the result of our own past actions and our own present doings. We ourselves are responsible for our own happiness and misery. We create our own Heaven. We create our own Hell. We are the architects of our own fate.

    It is important in your role as a leader to keep yours and your team’s focus on the goal you are seeking and to not allow yourself be distracted by accomplishments going on around you. Forget what others are doing and strive to achieve your own results knowing you and your team have a clear vision and are doing your best to achieve a common goal. You get in return what you invest in your team, so invest well by creating good karma through:

    • Instilling positive thoughts
    • Implementing team building exercises
    • Being a good listener
    • Being approachable
    • Appreciating and rewarding their efforts
    • Training them with classes, workshops, seminars and books

    Leadership is the ability to motivate and inspire others to take positive and sustainable action. Energy and enthusiasm are contagious, so surround yourself with as many optimists, go-getters and energetic types as you.

    While you are at it don’t forget to invest good karma in yourself by:

    • Maintaining a work/life balance
    • Taking time to enjoy your family and friends
    • Always being kind to others
    • Taking time exercise both your mind and body

    Investing good karma in your team and in yourself will garner the same in kind.

    Remember to always do your very best. Don’t worry about what others are doing around you. If someone is boasting about something they accomplished do not attempt to outdo them. Take satisfaction in your team knowing you did well, after all this is how Paul got in trouble in the first place. If you take personal satisfaction in a job well done you will never grow tired of doing what is right. If you don’t get discouraged and give up you will reap what you sow by keeping the good karma flowing in and ebbing the bad karma away.

    Remote Note:

    As a remote user you will often spend a lot of time traveling and as you know during travel people can be tense and angry for things well beyond their control. Take the higher road and don’t let these things get you down, instead be kind and generous to others and you will see they are kind and generous to you. Let somebody merge in traffic, and somebody lets you change lanes without tailgating or blaring their horn. Help somebody pick up the contents of their accidentally-spilt briefcase and somebody holds the elevator door for you. Good ultimately begets good. Instant Karma is a wonderful thing. Who doesn’t love a quick pay-off?

    What karma are you putting out there? What are you getting back in return?

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    4 Ways to Improve Yourself ~ A cut above the rest.

    Thursday, December 3, 2009 Leave a comment

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    (Photo: Stanley Tools)

    You may have heard the phrase “Sharpen the Saw” in Stephen Covey’s book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People®. He uses the example of a woodcutter sawing day after day continually losing productivity as the blade of his saw becomes dull. The solution is to periodically sharpen his saw so he can continue to be productive as a woodcutter.

    Times have changed!

    If you have ever used a hand saw you might think a saw is a saw, it cuts through wood and you send up with two pieces of wood and a pile of sawdust in the end. Although this is true to a point, Stanley® Tools makes a saw, the FatMax® Saw with BladeArmor™, they also make this same saw without BladeArmor™.

    “Yeah, so, who cares, what’s the difference?”

    Now if you were to take these two saws and try to cut through a 2×4 you would realize the difference. The Stanley® FatMax® saw without BladeArmor™ will cut through the wood and it will do a sufficient job, it might tweak here and there and it might stick a bit from time to time but in the end you have two pieces of wood and a pile of sawdust. Now using the Stanley® FatMax® Saw with BladeArmor™, you will still end up having the same results, two pieces of wood and a pile of sawdust, but you will have it in half the time. Why? Because the BladeArmor™ gives you:

    • 50% less friction
    • 2x rust protection
    • 6x abrasion protection

    You might spend a couple extra dollars, but in the end it is worth it because you created two pieces of wood and a pile of sawdust in half the time and you avoided the:

    • Extra friction of the saw cutting through the wood
    • Toll that rust can take on your saw
    • Abrasion caused by cutting through the wood

    Now what if you could apply this concept to your day-to-day life. How would you like to go through life with your own armor which provides you:

    • 50% less life friction?
    • 2x protection against the corrosion caused by life?
    • 6x less abrasion from others?

    You would love it! So why not take the time to upgrade your saw?

    Ask yourself these questions:

    • How sharp is your saw?
    • Does it cut smooth?
    • Does it cut straight?
    • Does it cut through wood like a hot knife through butter?

    If you answered “no” to any of these questions, then take a step back and look at where you can make improvement to your skills.

    What needs to be done to improve your saw?

    First, you need to take time for yourself.

    It is all too easy in this industrious world we live into skip a meal, forget to exercise and not sleep as much as we should. All of these things are important to keeping you healthy, energetic and alert. According to MayoClinic.com improving these areas of your life can help you to:

    • Enhance your mood
    • Combat disease
    • Manage weight
    • Boost your energy level
    • Promote better sleep
    • Improve your memory
    • Enrich your health

    Second, spend time with your family, friends, and colleagues.

    Studies have shown our social relationships can directly affect our mental and physical health. In order maintain solid relationships it is important to be:

    • Approachable
    • Genuine and honest to others
    • A good listener
    • Loyal and respectful of confidentiality when others confide in you
    • Supportive of their situations and to add perspective to what they say
    • Considerate of your relationships and giving of your time and self

    Third, contrary to what you might think; YOU DON’T KNOW EVERYTHING!

    Take some time to learn. By taking time to improve your mental skills whether it be through formal classes, reading, writing or even teaching others. It will help you to:

    • Be more productive and efficient
    • Ensue a competitive character giving you an advantage over others
    • Enhance career opportunities
    • Improve your skills by getting better at what you do
    • Become a disciplined individual

    Lastly, take time to enjoy life!

    When was the last time you jumped out of bed in the morning exhilarated for the day with a complete calm, not thinking about the issues affecting your life? When is the last time you dived into a pile of autumn leaves, without thinking how dirty you were going to get? When is the last time you jumped in a puddle, with no concern of getting wet?

    “Childhood is that state which ends the moment a puddle is first viewed as an obstacle instead of an opportunity.” – Kathy Williams

    It’s about:

    • Finding peace in your life
    • Taking the time to appreciate all your existence has to offer
    • Enjoying those little circumstances you encounter each day which brighten your spirit.

    There are a number of ways you can cultivate your spirituality:

    • Go for a nature hike
    • Listen to music
    • Visit a local gallery to appreciate some art
    • Volunteer in your community
    • Pray or attend church

    “Everyday is a new opportunity…so don’t waste it!”

    Each day provides you a new opportunity to renew your being. Take time for yourself, be social, spend time learning and enhance your spirit.

    What will you do to improve your saw?

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